Choice Points: Where work and home life come together.

Busy dual career couples who are successful at navigating personal and professional differences learn how to play on the same team. No matter how large or small, no matter the topic—be it financial management, parenting styles, political points of view, religious affiliation, cultural traditions, or other.  They do four things to keep their relationship rock-solid. You can use these tips, too.

 Focus on the Big Picture.

Why are you together?  This is the common denominator—the core—of your relationship. Remember that what’s important are the core Couple Values and Mutual Goals that brought you together in the first place (family, friends, contributing to the community and the world, and so on.)

De-escalate tension and use humor.

Spot when a conversation is turning heated and practice de-escalating the tension. Take a time-out and come back when you’ve cooled down. Practice listening to one another’s views on non hot topics so you really hear one another without being defensive or thinking about your rebuttal. When all else fails, use humor. Wallpaper the bathroom in cartoons on the subject—whatever the topic of difference may be.

Support one another’s uniqueness.

How your individuality is expressed may be through very different avenues—different creative outlets, participation in different sports activities, friend or professional groups. Sharing how you value these qualities in yourself and your partner makes them seem less different, scary or opposite. Especially when you focus on what value it brings to the relationship, and maybe even to your attraction. It might get boring if you were too much the same. Look to appreciate what you each bring to the relationship.

Remember, these are issuesthis is not about your commitment.

Remind yourselves that any difficulty or difference is about an “issue” or “problem” and not about your relationship itself. When you are committed, you are in it together and you can face anything if you do it together. If you remember to work as a team.

Choice Points: Where work and home life come together.

You’re a committed couple who dreams big. You want a thriving life. Your relationship, family life, professional pursuits, and maybe even a growing business are all of piece. You want all aspects comfortably melded, yet sometimes it’s important to disentangle them to make sure each facet is thriving on its own.

At different stages of relationship, all couples face choice points. It’s a good time to seek coaching to stay on track with your goals together. The Big Picture Partnering™ approach to relationship coaching, developed by Dr. Jan Hoistad, is especially helpful for professional couples with two careers, entrepreneurial couples with one or two businesses or the couple with one overseeing the household and family organization while the other works in the business. Blending career and personal life and giving you the mindset, tools, and skills to successfully to do is the aim of our relationship coaching.

When you smooth out your daily details and reach for your greatest visions together, your life at home and the office, together and apart, is energized, more fun and rewarding. Through Big Picture couples coaching, when we clarify your long-term vision, current needs, then strategize doable steps to get you there together, it’s invaluable.

 

Dr. Jan Hoistad

Business/Career/Executive Coach, Relationship Expert, Blogger, Author

When it comes to couples, ours is a unique approach to relationships. Dr. Jan Believes in Couples and Partnering Well Done. Couples coaching. It’s beyond therapy. It’s for committed couples who dream big. You want a thriving life. Your relationship, family life, professional pursuits, and maybe even a growing business are all of piece. Coaching that blends all your personal and professional needs while giving you the mindset, tools, and skills that can last you a life time is our expertise.

You want all aspects comfortably melded, yet sometimes it’s important to disentangle them to make sure each facet is thriving on its own. We are here to help you smooth out your daily details and reach for your greatest visions. Learning how to do this together is invaluable. We know how to help you get there.

Let’s have a conversation. Whether you want to make a good relationship even better, or need the tools to strengthen your most important relationship, Dr. Jan is ready for a free 30 minute phone conversation to help you achieve your goals. when you are. Just fill out the form on the contact page, email, or simply pick up the phone and give her a call 952 922 9430. Let’s talk!