“This is a must-read for all couples. The Big Picture Partnering approach that Dr. Hoistad describes gives you a step-by-step structure for building the kind of relationship we all dream about. Instead of struggling to figure out how to resolve your arguments, maintain your own individuality or achieve your big dreams together, Dr. Hoistad teaches you specific tools and skills so you can create a life that fulfills you both. Wherever you are in your relationship–newlywed, new parents, empty-nesters or life partners, this book will help you enhance your relationship in powerful ways“

“I have been reading your Big Picture Partnering approach and have been so impressed with the voice, the style, the writing, the approach….it’s all very “Dr Jan,” at once helpful and graceful, inspiring and commonsense. Just a killer combination of qualities. It is going to do SO well and will be my wedding gift of choice to my children (even with no wedding in sight!) and my friends’ engaged children. Such good and solid advice! Well done”.

 

 

“Dr. Hoistad shows couples how to move from a relationship that works to a relationship that rocks! Most loving couples want a relationship of partners, but the skills for nurturing and encouraging the healthiest and most exciting of relationships are not skills we’re born knowing. Dr. Hoistad leads us through them, step by step, helping couples identify the differences between being a true partner and being less than adult.”

 

“Super helpful guide to long-term partnering! Both my fiance and I read the book and explored the exercises. This is written in a way that is clear and easy to understand. We liked the step-by-step guidance of how to stay in our Healthy Adult in conversation with each other about a variety of topics. We found the structure to be really supportive to our partnering process with each other — but also with other people in our lives. We especially appreciated the numerous examples and anecdotes about real couples who mirrored our own questions and challenges. It is clear that author Dr. Jan Hoistad is drawing on a wealth of knowledge and experience with couples. Have already recommended this to our family and friends!”

 

“I found the Big Picture Partnering approach to be very uplifting. You won’t spend time allocating responsibility for the problems in your relationship, but will instead focus on building positive and useful ways of paying attention to one another.”

 

“This is a warm, practical, and easy-to-follow guide that I recommend to all individuals and couples. If you’re feeling stuck, hopeless, or looking for a way to make a good relationship great, Big Picture Partnering is for you.

–Joshua Coleman, Ph.D. Psychologist and author of The Marriage Makeover: Finding Happiness in Imperfect Harmony and When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don’t Get Along.