Transitions are often stressful. Especially when it’s not fully your decision. Like losing a job or promotion.

They’re also a choice point. So if you’re facing a tough challenge, consider the following.

1. Take an honest look at yourself. What are your strengths, weaknesses, skills? How did those influence—positively or negatively—the change you are facing?

2. Step up your self-care. Major changes are physically and emotionally taxing. You need self-care now more than ever.

3. Engage your curiosity. What went wrong, or right? What could you have done better? What worked really well? What can you let go of.

4. Focus on what you want, and less on what you don’t want. Keep your eye on the prize. What do you want to take with you into your future?

5. Find support. Since your transition may affect your family as well, it may be wise to seek the outside support of friends or professionals.

6. Work on your thoughts. Mindfulness is key. Calm your fears and reinforce your sense of hope and happiness.

7. Reassure (or avoid for a time) those who are threatened by, or jealous of, the changes to come.

8. Create your own rite of passage. Ceremony and ritual help with all transitions.

9. Let go of how things were “supposed to be” and accept “how things are.” Find appreciation for what is.

10. Keep things in perspective. Or try on a new perspective. So you don’t get stuck.


Remember, the only constant is change.



Dr. Jan Hoistad