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Becoming a fully independent young adult is challenging for many millennials. Emancipating one’s self from the restrictions of living with parents or 5 friends sharing a house requires patience, goal setting and specific action steps to achieve the financial, emotional and physical freedoms that are all aspects of becoming autonomous and creating a life. Here are thoughts from Emily Hinderaker, one millennial on the DJHP Team.
In my late twenties, it may come as a surprise to hear that I still live at home. I’m the first to admit this isn’t the best of situations, and I’d much more prefer to emancipate myself. In fact, that’s exactly what I’ve been working on for the past few months.
But before I dig into how, I’d like to give my perspective on the situation and let you in on what goes on in my mind as I move toward creating the independence I want.
Saving Money Comes at a Cost
Yes, it’s true, I do not pay rent, but I pay in privacy and adulthood. There is a fine line between the parent/child roles and the roommate living situation. Although I am very thankful, I am also very afraid because I have never truly lived on my own, I constantly ask myself, “Can I even do it?”
Dating is Right Out the Window
I’m single. I have been single for a very long time. I feel that I am not in a position to date, mainly due to the fact that the dreaded moment will come up, EVERY time:
“Where do you live?”
“Umm, with my parents…”
Although most people aren’t rude in their response, their faces say it all. Yes, So if you want to hang out, we can’t use my place of residence…unless you want to feel like you’re in high school again.
Fear in Uncertainty
I want nothing more than to be on my own, but I’m terrified. And although my relationship with my parents is amazing, it’d be even more amazing if I didn’t see them every day.
I ask myself, what’s stopping me? I say money, but that’s not true.
“The real fact is that there’s a lingering fear behind all the uncertainty.”
So, what can I do with the current situation I am in?
Look on the bright side. I am lucky to have a place to live. I am lucky that my parents are willing to help and have the ability to help. I am a privileged person and I will never forget that.
Make a plan. Budget, budget, budget. Find out the cost of living, find your cost of living, and make a plan so that you can move out and feel comfortable.
Accept the fear and face it head on. This is the most important. The worst thing that you can do is to hide from the fear. Realizing that I am scared and worried, I incorporate that into my thoughts, and choose to act differently. It is all about perspective. I choose action and change.
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Emily is the People and Project Assistant at (DJHP) Dr. Jan Hoistad Partners where she and other team members provide support services to busy professionals in need of a helping hand. She wears many hats in the organization and is passionate about helping others who are passionate about what they do. Recent projects include writing, editing, researching, creating power points, strategic planning, and scheduling. QuickBooks, project management, email campaigns, creating visuals, contact management, event planning and coordination and much more. Emily is always looking to expand her portfolio with new and exciting projects. She offers creativity, efficiency and peace of mind.
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