Not too long ago, my brother had his first child. We’re close and talk regularly. But since the birth of his child, the conversations have changed a bit, and there’s definitely a trending topic: working while raising a baby.
All the things that were so easy before have suddenly become really, really hard. Even finding time to go the grocery store, filling up his car’s gas tank, or grabbing a bite to eat seems like big events.
So, me not completely understanding the situation, I asked others for their opinions, and who better to ask than my parents?
I talked to my mom about how I couldn’t imagine working and having a child. Finding a balance between my personal and professional life is already difficult. To throw a child in the mix, I’d be lost. Though difficult, she reassured me that it could be done.
Naturally, I take the idea one step further. What happens if you’re a single parent? How in the world do you find the time to support a family and do everything you need to do to raise a child?
One of my clients is in this exact situation. She’s a Super Woman! But hey, even Super Women need assistance sometimes, right?
I’ve been helping her teenage kids get ready for the next steps in their lives. One is a senior in high school and starting the college application process. The other is only a sophomore, so there’s a little time. But we’re teaching him responsibility by way of his older brother.
As a late bloomer, these kids are in much better shape than I was at their age. They do very well at taking care of things. However, I’ve been helping them to understand the importance of initiation — otherwise known as putting what they know into action.
“Sometimes, kids don’t listen to their parents. Weird, huh? I know, but it’s true, especially when something needs to be done.”
Because of this, I often find myself saying the same things to the kids as their mother. It’s not that the mom is wrong or bad or not important, but it does sound different coming from someone who is more like a peer than a parent.
We’re currently working on college applications and everything that needs to be completed for college, including app deadlines, ACT Prep, college visits, financial aid options, scholarships, essays, and the list goes on and on.
Now, I’m not saying you can’t do it all. But I’ve seen firsthand how hiring outside help can free people up to focus on the things that matter most. Even outsourcing the “little” things, like laundry, grocery shopping, and housecleaning, can make a big difference.
The point I’m trying to make is that it’s not difficult to get help. It’s also not as pricey as many people think. Just get out of the mindset that outside help is a luxury and start thinking of the additional time as an extravagance you can’t live without.
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Emily is the People and Project Assistant at (DJHP) Dr. Jan Hoistad Partners where she and other team members provide support services to busy professionals in need of a helping hand. She wears many hats in the organization and is passionate about helping others who are passionate about what they do. Recent projects include writing, editing, researching, creating power points, strategic planning, and scheduling. QuickBooks, project management, email campaigns, creating visuals, contact management, event planning and coordination and much more. Emily is always looking to expand her portfolio with new and exciting projects. She offers creativity, efficiency and peace of mind.
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